I’ve been thinking a lot over the last week around destructive behaviours, how they manifest themselves and whether or not I can break out of this cycle.
I struggle with this when it comes to money & food.
Getting fit & healthy, losing weight and feeling confident in my skin is something that I have wanted for as long as I can remember. Being financially stable, having savings & not living paycheque to paycheque is also something that I have struggled with.
I know that in order to achieve this, I have to demonstrate consistency and discipline, so why haven’t I been able to do this despite countless tries?
The answer, I believe, lies within unpicking the destructive behaviours which prevent me from achieving my goals.
I live with anxiety and this does play a big part in my behavioural presets. I rarely want to step outside of my comfort zone because of my fear of the unknown, even though my comfort zone is inhibiting my progress, I’d rather stay safe in there than exposed.
Here is an excerpt from an article on Psychology Today in relation to destructive behaviours and mindfulness:
“You may have learned to use dysregulated behaviour to try to “turn off” painful or uncomfortable emotions.
However, trying to “turn off” emotions is like putting an airtight lid on a pot of boiling water. The steam and pressure (the emotions) will continue to build – until you may feel you are constantly under pressure. Eventually, the pot will explode, which is when emotions feel especially unbearable. Consequently, you may feel compelled to try to “turn off” the heightened emotions by engaging in the dysregulated behaviour again.”
The behaviour in question is eating crap food or spending money that I don’t need to spend. Both of these are at the expense of my long term goals of achieving financial stability & a body that I’m proud of.
I don’t know how I’m going to go about changing this particular set of behaviours, but I know is something I am going to have to address if I want to achieve my goals.
On an aside, I would love to hear feedback on what I’m writing and how I can improve!